This is a guest post by my 15-year-old daughter Madison…or Maddie as she’s known by her friends. Her little sister’s post, “Keeping on going,” shares a similar theme. I find that very interesting…
Attention readers of my mom’s blog. This is her favorite oldest daughter Maddie. In case my mom doesn’t post enough about me (she doesn’t), let me tell you some stuff about myself. I am 15, I like the color blue, I met my best friend ever in August, I play the cello, I swim, I love to make people laugh, and I am about to get my Young Women’s medallion. I bet you’re wondering why in the world I’m posting and not my wonderful mother; it’s because she asked me to guest-post.
I don’t actually know what I’m doing, so bear with me.
Since I was told I could post about anything, I guess I’ll talk about our most powerful muscle we’ll ever know—your tongue. Now, before I start, I’d like to get the fact out there that I am not perfect (I am FAR from that) but I try. I’m assuming you went to at least middle school, so you can probably relate to everything I’m going to say. Let me just get this out there: People are mean. They will judge you, criticize you, make fun of you, and make you feel like you’re nothing. Trust me, I know. I’ve been through this and, I’ll admit it, I’ve done it.
I’m LDS. I’m going to use some scriptures every now and then. If that bothers you, don’t listen, but I think they’ll all help whether you believe in any religion or not.
Okay, first off, I’d like to talk about friends. I’ve been through lots of close friends. As I mentioned earlier, I met my best friend back in August. Before I had met her, I was going through some hard things with friends and personal stuff. I had decided to join the high school swim team with my friend and I met a lot of great people there. One was my best friend Olivia. We got off to a great start and we’ve been strong ever since! She is amazing and has influenced me in so many positive ways, which is what I wanted to talk about: the people you surround yourself make a HUGE difference in how you act.
I remember having these friends a while ago that would judge and make fun of other people and I went along with it because they were my “friends.” I didn’t like it at all and one day (after I had known Olivia for a while) I decided I was done. I had to tell my best friend at the time that I didn’t want to be around people who did that and she blew up in my face. She and I don’t talk anymore, but I know I made the right choice. I have friends now that I’m comfortable with and they don’t talk bad about anyone, ever. But my old friends had gotten me in the habit of judging people even before I had talked to them! So this last week I decided I would change that. I made a challenge to stop “judging a book by its cover.” It has helped so much! Just this week I’ve noticed a difference.
Yesterday we had a lesson in seminary about our words. We focused on James 3 in the Bible. In verse 5 and 6 it says:
Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth. And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.
Those scriptures told us that our words are powerful and they have the power to create something beautiful and uplifting or destroy and create contentions.
Think of a time when someone insulted you, even if they were joking. How did you feel? Not so good, but now think of some time when you did the same thing to someone else. How did you feel as you looked at them? I hope you felt bad, because hurting someone’s self-esteem is just down-right rude. Teens and adults all struggle with their personal image and making fun of things that person was already struggling with just adds to the whole mess of life.
Elder Jeffery R. Holland spoke on this topic.
I know this all sounds like a cliché, but I pinky promise it helps! I PINKY PROMISE. That’s a big deal to me.
In summary, life sucks for everyone, so why can’t we just help everyone out? The world would be so much better if we all just stopped hurting each other. Romans 14: 10-13 reads:
But why dost thou judge they brother? or why dost thou set at naught thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgement seat of Christ. For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God. So then every one of us shall give an account of himself to God. Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.
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